tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post115318259487841315..comments2023-10-17T07:34:35.780-05:00Comments on Pearls and Dreams: Blog Carnival Against Child AbuseDreaming againhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15717590226520457326noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1154622804584113402006-08-03T11:33:00.000-05:002006-08-03T11:33:00.000-05:00Thank you for sharing this story. I agree with som...Thank you for sharing this story. I agree with some of the other commenters: the pianist knew what was happening but was powerless to stop it. She wanted to pretend it wasn't happening. I'm sure when you weren't around it was happening to her too, and she was equally powerless to stop that.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that this happened to you.brewerburnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194810403975358325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153456304809498682006-07-20T23:31:00.000-05:002006-07-20T23:31:00.000-05:00I have a lot of ministers in my family, and I can ...I have a lot of ministers in my family, and I can attest that just because they are ministers doesn't mean they aren't human beings too. I've seen it all....absconding with church funds, lying, adultery, incest. <BR/><BR/>I am sorry that happened to you. Have you ever tried to look up your friend to see how she is?<BR/><BR/>WWWendy Hokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08713548779888354920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153451007827329742006-07-20T22:03:00.000-05:002006-07-20T22:03:00.000-05:00(((hugs)))(((hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153377640924008602006-07-20T01:40:00.000-05:002006-07-20T01:40:00.000-05:00HiI've come from the blog carnival links. Thanks f...Hi<BR/><BR/>I've come from the blog carnival links. Thanks for sharing your story. When I read it, as an outsider, you think that Pianist knew very well what was happening but felt powerless how to control the situation. The same with his wife. That poor Pianist obviously was desperate to have someone else in the house to deflect him for a while and to feel like a normal girl I expect. What an experience for you both.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07423801933833225894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153358832662514722006-07-19T20:27:00.000-05:002006-07-19T20:27:00.000-05:00Pk ... I'm relieved to see this post here. I think...Pk ... I'm relieved to see this post here. I think you know how much.<BR/><BR/>You are <I>blossoming</I> into a woman with a <I>ministry</I> ... <BR/><BR/>... compare now to only 3 or 4 months ago.<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for sharing all of this with us. Please don't stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153252313051909012006-07-18T14:51:00.000-05:002006-07-18T14:51:00.000-05:00Thanks so much for contributing again to our blog ...Thanks so much for contributing again to our blog carnival against child abuse. I am very impressed with the courage you are showing in looking at your past.<BR/><BR/>I can't believe the nerve of this pastor! His "excuses" just make my skin crawl and make me so mad! You know, my sister actually confronted our pedophile father once (I never have). He actually told her that it was because our mother would no longer let him touch her. I imagine that was the situation with the disabled wife. As if these are legitimate excuses for molesting kids!!! Aaarrrrggghh!Marj aka Thriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06825698906631474866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153231853994963592006-07-18T09:10:00.000-05:002006-07-18T09:10:00.000-05:00Why is it that many fathers of teenage girls becom...Why is it that many fathers of teenage girls become confused? Rather than the proper response of protective pride, they become addled predators? Rather than more manly they become lecherous and immature.<BR/><BR/>And all that crap about "disabled wife!" A real Christian can handle what life dishes. I feel for everyone involved except that creep.pbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568681879593734160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153218677845102502006-07-18T05:31:00.000-05:002006-07-18T05:31:00.000-05:00This is a very sad story. Why does it seem those t...This is a very sad story. Why does it seem those that should protect you can indeed be the wolf in sheeps clothing?Wanda's Wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823654163692296686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153211022079814192006-07-18T03:23:00.000-05:002006-07-18T03:23:00.000-05:00As a teenager, it read as annoyance ...now, I wond...As a teenager, it read as annoyance ...now, I wonder how much was fear and helplessness. <BR/><BR/>I, too, have often wondered how my dear friend has faired in life. What scars does she bear ... how and if she's been able to break the chains of her childhood. <BR/><BR/>I often pray for her ... and wish I had some way of contacting her. I've looked on the web, but did not find her.Dreaming againhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15717590226520457326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153205907788877972006-07-18T01:58:00.000-05:002006-07-18T01:58:00.000-05:00I may be way off track here, and probably am, but ...I may be way off track here, and probably am, but it's also possible that she was annoyed with you because she could read the signs that he was coming on to you, and that was making her semi-consciously deal with something she wanted to stay in denial about. That's badly put, but I guess I'm saying that one of the nasty dynamics that can happen is that victims sometimes become passive facilitators of the victimisation of others because it takes the heat of them, but to live with themselves they have to deny it. Or maybe she was just so powerless that the situation was just another knife going through her. Either way, a horrible situation. I feel for the kid you were, trying to deal with something like that, and even more for Pianist. I wonder what scars her soul still wears?Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982043538182690871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1153185238815862232006-07-17T20:13:00.000-05:002006-07-17T20:13:00.000-05:00How sad! I feel so sorry for pianist and for her ...How sad! I feel so sorry for pianist and for her mom, too. It sounds like the mom wasn't in a position to keep herself or her daughter safe. Although if she was annoyed with you... I can't decide if that was "normal" denial or extra intense denial because she couldn't really do anything anyway (or at least I'm sure she felt that way.) I'm sorry you had to expierence that, too. That must have been awful for you.<BR/><BR/>((Hugs))Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782945456441862425noreply@blogger.com