tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post114309726819458651..comments2023-10-17T07:34:35.780-05:00Comments on Pearls and Dreams: Lesson Learned the hard wayDreaming againhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15717590226520457326noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1143167278935428782006-03-23T20:27:00.000-06:002006-03-23T20:27:00.000-06:00Glad your stress is relieved...Relationships can b...Glad your stress is relieved...<BR/><BR/>Relationships can be so stressful.<BR/><BR/>later...It's me, T.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17835558639653389651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1143127229905084782006-03-23T09:20:00.000-06:002006-03-23T09:20:00.000-06:00I agree Moof, in large part, for most offenses ......I agree Moof, in large part, for most offenses ... we'd all be better off with forgiveness being the first line of defense. Using the Matthew 18 principal for the repeated or more serious wounds. <BR/><BR/>Which, is where this fell. <BR/><BR/>This is a man, who I saw, 2 times a week, at the minimum. His wife and I were good friends, we work closely together on the worship team, also, he and I are on the Children's ministry planning team ... he and I also wind up in meetings now and then with the pastor and other ministry team representatives. So, quite frequently. <BR/><BR/>He, had no clue that he was hurting me. <BR/><BR/>Last night, as I laid in bed, unable to sleep, I thought of how this worked out. Thankful it had ironed out. <BR/><BR/>I realized there were situations that could have been avoided had I come to him 3 years ago, for both him and I, and for him and others ... which is the <BR/> deal.Dreaming againhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15717590226520457326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8988655.post-1143120516458923192006-03-23T07:28:00.000-06:002006-03-23T07:28:00.000-06:00That was a fantastic post. Very open, and probably...That was a fantastic post. Very open, and probably very difficult to write.<BR/><BR/>You know, I think that there are times when the way you've been doing things all along really <I>is</I> the best way to go, and I think you can probably get a sense of that, for example: is this relationship with a person I'm going to be seeing a lot, or only rarely? ... do I know about circumstances in their lives which could be bringing out this sort of behavior at this time? ... am I able to discern the basic motivation behind the hurtful (word, behavior, ...)? ... and finally, really most importantly - how long has this been going on with this particular person?<BR/><BR/>The fellow in question ... something should probably have been said earlier on ... or even, consider this: could it be that, if you had immediately said something to him, he would not have had a string of past events to look back on and learn from? Could it be that you needed to wait all of this time for him to have his overall behavior laid out before him with such clarity that it strikes, not only his intellect, but also his heart?<BR/><BR/>Those are the thoughts that crossed my mind as I read your post. You will have a much better sense of the answers than I do.<BR/><BR/>Thank you again for such a insightful post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com